Author: Cody Daigle-Orians

My Rating: 5 Stars

Goodreads Rating: 4.63

Publication Date: January 19th, 2023

Genre: LGBTQ+ Nonfiction

Format Read: Ebook

Goodreads Summary: How do I know if I’m actually sexual?
How do I come out as asexual?
What kinds of relationship can I have as an ace person?
If you are looking for answers to these questions, Cody is here to help. Within these pages lie all the advice you need as a questioning ace teen.
Tackling everything from what asexuality is, the asexual spectrum and tips on coming out, to intimacy, relationships, acephobia and finding joy, this guide will help you better understand your asexual identity alongside deeply relatable anecdotes drawn from Cody’s personal experience.
Whether you are ace, demi, gray-ace or not sure yet, this book will give you the courage and confidence to embrace your authentic self and live your best ace life.

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I received a copy of this book from Netgalley in exchange for an honest review


Review

If you are a follower of this website, you’ve probably heard by now that I’ve been on a mission to learn more about asexuality. I Am Ace: Advice on Living Your Best Asexual Life was the perfect book to aid me on that journey. Cody Daigle-Orians did an excellent job of combining facts about asexuality with his own personal experience to paint a complete picture of what it means to live as an ace person. After reading this book, I feel more knowledgeable on the topic and better able to understand the nuances of the experience.

Daigle-Orians became a public asexual figure with his TikTok “Ace Dad Advice”, and eventually decided to write this book about his experiences and about asexuality as a whole. As a gay man who came out as asexual later in life, he has a wealth of knowledge to share about navigating romantic relationships, coming out, and just generally living your best life as an asexual person.

From learning the definition of the word “asexual”, to exploring microlabels, to each of the other milestones on the journey from asexual birth to death, this book gave advice and explainations for each part of the journey. 

I appreciated how easy this book was to read. Everything, even the most complicated of definitions, was explained plainly, and personal anecdotes were interspersed often enough that I was never bored. At certain times, the author would talk about his experiences in a way that was so relatable to me as another member of the LGBTQ+ community that it made me cry. I loved hearing about the acceptance which he received, the way that being a public ace figure inspired other young men, and how even as an Ace micro-celebrity he was still moved by seeing young asexual people living their best lives.

It isn’t that everything in the book was sunshine and rainbows— Daigle-Orians was fairly forthright about the aphobia in our society today. It isn’t easy to exist when you don’t fit into the norm! However, the way that he focused on queerness as action and activism, as well as all of the positives that come from living your most authentic self, truly resonated with me as a reader.

Regardless of your sexuality, I highly recommend reading this book as an easily digestible guide to asexuality, as well as for more insight into Daigle-Orians personal journey.